Personal Success

Feeling stuck, scattered or overwhelmed?

  • Can you only see one option and it’s not the one you want to take?
  • Are you overwhelmed with options and unable to choose one?
  • Do you know what to do but not how to do it?
  • Do you make a start and then not maintain it?
  • Are you doing it all on your own and feeling totally worn out?
  • Are you waiting for something to change and it just isn’t?
  • Perhaps you are working flat out but deep down know you are on the wrong track?

We all experience being stuck at times. Whether it’s over big or small issues, it usually results from only seeing one possible course of action and not wanting to take it. Getting unstuck depends on you freeing up your thinking and creating more possibilities.

Here are some effective ways to re-focus and get moving in the right direction

  1. Write down your challenge as succinctly and accurately as possible
  2. Change your physical position
  3. Go for a drive
  4. Brainstorm all the possible options. Go for quantity and don’t filter out the whackier ideas
  5. Exercise
  6. Get a coach who can ask powerful and challenging questions that provoke
    you to think differently
  7. Take a break, make yourself a cup of coffee
  8. Go for a walk around the block
  9. Get out into nature
  10. Lie on your back and look up at the sky
  11. Give yourself permission to stop thinking about it right now. Make an appointment
    with yourself to re-visit it when you are feeling more resourceful
  12. Sleep on it and let your unconscious mind work on it overnight
  13. Talk it over with a trusted advisor
  14. Ask yourself “If I knew the solution, what would it be?”
  15. Have a soak in the bath
  16. Ask yourself if this is something you want to address or just think you should, must or ought to
  17. Change the language you are using to generate more excitement and commitment
  18. Build in accountability for taking actions by reporting back to someone
  19. Check your assumptions, especially when you are telling yourself you can’t do something. What if you did?

What would you add to the list?

Which of these steps work best for you?

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Where to Focus Our Attention

Anthony Robbins said “Focus on where you want to go, not on what you fear.” When I was being treated for cancer 10 years ago, this quote really helped me and I totally lived by it.

Many of us who are committed to our continuing personal and professional development are familiar with visualising success. We picture the successful outcome in full Technicolor, turn up the volume on what we are hearing, and increase the intensity of our positive feelings. It is often very effective in motivating us to take action and start to close the gap between where we are and where we want to be.

However, when fear is keeping us stuck and we feel unable to take action it can also be really useful to flip this and focus on what we fear.

Samurai warriors used to visualise their own death in combat before they went into battle. In a meditative state, the warrior would vividly see his own death and accept it. This dissipated the fear and freed him up to go on and fight with abandon.

I believe that at times it is beneficial to consider the worst case scenario and ask ourselves what we would do if it became a reality. It helps to face the fear head on and recognise that we will come through the other side, one way or the other. In other words “this too shall pass.”

My questions to you are:

  • Do you think it is ever beneficial to focus on your fears?
  • What would you do if you were fearless?