Where to Focus Our Attention

Anthony Robbins said “Focus on where you want to go, not on what you fear.” When I was being treated for cancer 10 years ago, this quote really helped me and I totally lived by it.

Many of us who are committed to our continuing personal and professional development are familiar with visualising success. We picture the successful outcome in full Technicolor, turn up the volume on what we are hearing, and increase the intensity of our positive feelings. It is often very effective in motivating us to take action and start to close the gap between where we are and where we want to be.

However, when fear is keeping us stuck and we feel unable to take action it can also be really useful to flip this and focus on what we fear.

Samurai warriors used to visualise their own death in combat before they went into battle. In a meditative state, the warrior would vividly see his own death and accept it. This dissipated the fear and freed him up to go on and fight with abandon.

I believe that at times it is beneficial to consider the worst case scenario and ask ourselves what we would do if it became a reality. It helps to face the fear head on and recognise that we will come through the other side, one way or the other. In other words “this too shall pass.”

My questions to you are:

  • Do you think it is ever beneficial to focus on your fears?
  • What would you do if you were fearless?

9 Responses to Where to Focus Our Attention

  • Great post. Reminds me of the saying:

    everything is going to be ok in the end. If it isn’t ok, then it isn’t the end yet.

    Focus on what you like to achieve.
    Take actions towards it. Daily.

    Cheers,
    Volker

  • Such a timely post for me! I am in the middle of a project that I had hoped to finished earlier this summer. I found the time to work on EVERYTHING else under the sun, except this one project. Every time I would sit down to work on it, I became mentally blocked. The excitement that I had once I birthed the idea had waned to almost nothing and it pained me to push on. I finally (just yesterday) sat down and asked myself what I was afraid of and had a laundry list of what ifs and doubts. I took some time to do some objection handling (that sales training does come in handy after all) and I feel a lot better. I’ve decided to change my approach a bit and I’m finally OK with the possibility that someone out there just might not like it. It’s all a part of the process!

  • A quote in my new diary reads:

    “I’ve been absolutely terrified every moment of my life – and I’ve never let it keep me from doing a single thing I wanted to do”
    Georgia O’Keefe

    Fear is normal and essential to keep us safe sometimes.But our culture is fear based to get us to do things without question. Good to question our fears and ask what they need from us. But keep going anyway when we trust our instincts!
    Good questions.

  • I strive daily to live a fearless life. Growing up with a disability in a single parent upper middle class family I had to learn from a very early age to take live by the horns with both hands and run with it making the most of it with what you have. Life is too short to waist a second.

    Through many ups and downs I have learnt to make do with what I have and use that to better my life. Today I run a homebased marketing business and care for my gf who also has a disability.

  • Really good food for though 😉

  • I am actually the opposite. I have to focus on the benefits that will come and not my fears. I’m far too anxious of a person. I can see how it may be beneficial to some though!

    If I were fearless I would become an actress.
    🙂

    Great post by the way!

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